{"id":1687,"date":"2020-12-07T11:59:52","date_gmt":"2020-12-07T11:59:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mariestopes.org.kh\/?p=1687"},"modified":"2024-03-25T14:07:30","modified_gmt":"2024-03-25T14:07:30","slug":"the-universal-pleasures-and-precautions-of-intercourse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mariestopes.org.kh\/km\/help-advice\/the-universal-pleasures-and-precautions-of-intercourse\/","title":{"rendered":"The universal pleasures and precautions of intercourse"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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In the realm of sexuality, sex and pleasure, the conversation is usually dominated by the heteronormative view of what exactly sex and pleasure is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most often than not, when the conversation diverges to LGBTQ+, non-abled bodied persons, and other marginalized groups, the focus on sex is not on sex or pleasure itself but it becomes hinged on the \u201cfascination\u201d of having to have sex as LGBTQ+ or non-able bodied. What we are trying to convey in this blog today is that the idea of sex and pleasure is universal and it is not a language that is esoteric to heterosexuals or able-bodied persons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Disability and sexuality<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

With more than 15% of the world\u2019s population affected by disability[1]<\/a>, the conversation surrounding sex, safe sex, and sexual reproductive health and rights should always positively include the experiences of a non-abled bodied person. The conversation should not condescend, infantilize or make non-able-bodied persons to those who are unable to enjoy the pleasures of sex or understand it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Especially for women, disability could mean being denied an active sex-life, partnership, and motherhood. However, the conversation around SRHR keeps being focused on heterosexual and able-bodied men and women with little to no mention of sexual agency, sexual pleasures, and a non-heteronormative view of sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Consent<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first step to any sexual act should be consent. An affirmative yes without any coercion, substance abuse, or force before a sexual act commence is what you normally refer to as consent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have to guilt trip someone into a sexual act, that is not consent either. Remember, a \u201cno\u201d is a \u201cno\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Communication<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You and your partner(s) should talk to each other about STIs\/HIV testing and other communicable diseases that can be passed during sex beforehand. Talk about what kind of protection you and your partner(s) are comfortable using. If you were born with a uterus and ovaries and your partner is a sperm producer, you will still be able to get pregnant if you have intercourse without birth control or protection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Protection<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As with all sexual contacts, sex comes with the risks of unwanted pregnancy and STIs. Contraception is a way to prevent unwanted pregnancy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There are many ways that you and your partner(s) can protect yourself from STIs. Here are a few:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n